|  Why do gay men have sex? Here's a few reasons….through choice, exercise, pleasure, escape, for money, addiction, want to, need to feel wanted, need to be loved, to orgasm, for fun, physical need, a bed for the night, enjoyment, attraction, natural instinct, boredom, as part of a relationship, feeling horny, influence of drugs, intimacy, it's exciting…….. Most of the reasons gay men have sex are about things other than pure sex. So it's useful to be clear about what you want and why. If it's just a shag then say so. If you really like the guy and want to meet up again, say so. |
| When was the last time you had sex and did something you didn't want to, just to please the other person? Or didn't feel able to go up to the guy you really fancied sex with and ask him? Or ask a sexual partner to do that thing you really, really enjoy (soooo much!) ? Or just negotiate something different with your boyfriend? We've probably all had sexual experiences, casual or otherwise, where we've had a feeling of regret the morning after, felt forced to do something sexually that we didn't want to, or felt unable to ask for the sex we want? The end result? A feeling of being less than satisfied? Guilty? Upset? Confused? Wished you'd said no? Or negotiated something different? |
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